How to keep a godly relationship (A-Z Rules)

   Every society in the world has its own belief system and customary model of doing certain things to preserve their culture or tradition. The belief system of each society carries in it the definition and essence of human development and relationship. To checkmate several temptations enclosed in keeping relationships, certain rules or ideology have been practiced, but all this are not good enough to sustain a satisfying and godly relationship in our modern age..
   Regardless of these definitions attached to keeping relationship, it is paramount you understand the God standard for keeping a godly relationship as this will help you Build, Nurture and live a Life filled with the bliss of a successful relationship.
Below are Guide line to help you achieve that godly relationship you've wanted:

*****Relationship is a loving feeling of been accepted,understood,protected

 by someone you share intimacy with*****

A-Abstinence from sex during courtship.
    Altruism toward each other.
    Appreciate the effort of each other with sincere compliments.

B-Believe in GOD (HE is the ultimate source of strength and wisdom).
    Belief in each others potentials and dreams.

C-Chastity of your body. this fortify trust in your partner.
    Communication (NOTHING COMPARES TO A RELATIONSHIP THAT BOTH PARTNER
     UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER VERBALLY, EMOTIONALLY AND SPIRITUALLY)
    Compassion.
    Compliments (this is the bench mark of motivation in relation, a relationship that lacks this will be full of
     resent and a sense of been used by the other).
    Career, build a stable and self motivated career.
    Character building





D-Define your relationship (put a limit to romantic affairs)
    Deliberately change your behavior or character for the best possible result.
    Discuss your future together-this helps to remind the both of you what your relationship is all about.

E-Empathy,develop a strong empathy for each other.
    Endurance in term of your partners behavior.
 
F-Fervent prayer, the role of prayer in relationship is very important as this help keep your spirituality alive.
    Forgiveness of each others flaws.
    Finances, decide who brings in  the most money and always have a special savings.
 
G-Gratitude towards every good deeds shown by your partner. this motivates him/her to do more for you.
    Gifts, don't expect your partner to always give your gifts, be the giver.
    Goals, have a strong and well motivated goal for yourself and your relationship.

***Relationship transcends courtesy and morality. It involves self worth and individual belief system***  

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H-Honesty, do note that "he whom  you lie to today, you have disrespected yesterday" (quote by me).
    being honest with your partner gives him/her a sense that you can be trusted.
    Heartiness and Humility.

I-Integrity, this is very crucial in relationship. never lose it.

J-Jealousy, this is the best murderer of trust worthiness and love. never you be jealous your partner relation
   with opposite sex. This yields to unpleasant thoughts (especially ladies) leading actions that are regrettable.

K-Know it all, know all there is to know about your partner and do not leave room to assumptions for
     knowledge you don't have about him/her.
     Kindness (this should be practiced in words and action) .

L-Listening (read more on this from my previous post;EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION GUIDELINES)
    Love or Lust, you should be able to differentiate between both.
    Lead a godly life, avoiding a sort of carnality (immorality) in your relationship.

M-Mutuality, this is the perfect state in which both individuals have fully grasps the values and understood
     each other beyond sentiments. 
     Magnanimous.

N-Nosiness and Neglect of each others should be avoided.

O-Obligation, be responsible for yourself and equally for your partner.
    Optimistic about your relationship and life generally.
    Obsession, avoid all sorts of obsessions (addictions) that could be detrimental to your relationship.

P-Parents, this sometimes brings issue in relationships as one partner places preferences on his/her parent
    than the others. Its imperative  that respects for each others parents should be taken seriously to avoid
    unwanted issues for each other and from your parents.
    Past, have a full knowledge about each others past.
    Planning, have a solid plan for your life and your relationship (long term plans are best for relationship as
    this enhance your goals and keeps you focused).

Q-Quitting, in some relationships, there are times things don't work out as planned. Therefore you should
     know when  to quit such relationship.
     Questioning, always ask question when in doubt. Never make decision based on assumptions (Ladies).

*** Relationship is a unifying bond between two people as a result of companionship, mutuality, values

                                                and or sexuality *****

R-Respect each others feelings, sense of judgement, family and personality.
    Reassurance of love and commitment (especially to Ladies as this reenforce trust).

S-Sincerity.
    Sentimental judgements should be avoided.
    Selflessness.
    Sympathy and apology.

T-Thank you (this is proper courtesy).
    Trust each other.
 

U-Understanding, this is the state of knowing you partner and being able  to predict his/her next move.
     Understanding your partners emotionally, spiritually, financially and socially is paramount.

V-Values, develop deep culture for each other values.

W-Woe.
   
 X-XL Syndrome (desire to live a eXtra Large life should be avoided. live within your means, that is,  within your financial capacity.


Y-Yield yourself to the Spirit of God and depend on Him for utmost direction for your life.

Z-Zeal,have a strong and self motivated zeal for life, career and your relationship.

  In summary, relationship should be centered around the love of God. Without the love of God, it is practically impossible for you to conveniently love some else.
Therefore,with the love of God in you, set values, understanding, good communication and mutuality, you  can build a solid relationship.