Conflicts Resolution in Relationships.

God created human beings differently and in a peculiar way (1peter 2:9). No two human beings are the same. Moreover, we all have different backgrounds, exposure and experiences. Our differences are the reason for our disagreements which eventually leads to conflicts in relationships.

Facts about conflict:

1.       Conflict is a natural phenomenon: we are naturally different. Cain & Abel, Esau and Jacob, etc were different even though they were brothers from the same parents.

2.      Conflict is not same thing as quarrel: whenever there is conflict in a relationship, it is usually over an issue. But where there is quarrel, it means we have aggravated the issue to attacking personality. Oftentimes we allow conflict to degenerate to quarrel and it should not be so.

3.      Conflict in a relationship is an indication of deprivation of a personal need or value: we all come to a relationship with needs. Whenever a need is not met, it may result I disagreement which will lead to conflict.

4.      Conflict is a symptom: whenever there is conflict, what we need to do is to get to the root cause of the conflict. Pain (in a relationship) is an indication that something is wrong.  Don’t ever leave the parasite in the blood, go beneath the surface.

5.      Conflicts should be dealt with openly: the best way to liberate an injury is to open it up for treatment. If you don’t rock the boat right now, the boat will eventually sink in the future.

6.      Conflicts provide opportunity for growth: relationships that go through conflict and are properly resolved grow and the needs in those relationships are met. Conflicts at times may be the best thing that may happen to a relationship

7.      Unresolved conflicts do not diminish: when conflicts are not resolved, they do not die. Conflicts have a life of their own. It may lead to disagreement, then confrontation and separation.

8.      Unresolved conflicts prevent satisfying and rewarding relationships: the goal of god is to satisfy us. Resolve any conflict in your relationship and your life will become rewarding and satisfying.

In conclusion, conflicts in relationship do not mark the end of such relationship. Rather, it helps create a platform for both individual to know each other better, understand there temperament, thus enhancing communication in such relationship.

It’s paramount that every relationship should be built on the solid foundation of Christ Jesus. Also keep in mind that “when men and women are able to respect and accept their differences, then love has a chance to blossom. (John Gray- Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus).

Article by; Pastor Olumide Sporty Adewunmi,

Extracted from The Harvester.

The monthly publication of Global Harvest Church,

Outer ring road branch.

Ibadan, Nigeria.